Monday, June 22, 2009


I ran into this family of bigots last weekend while we were in Delaware. Their t-shirts were so offensive to me that I actually had my mouth hanging open when the man walked up to me and made a comment about my arm sling. Need a close up?

"One Man. One Woman. That's Marriage."

I think the thing that burns my butt the most is the fact that these people either have ancestors who were discriminated against or they themselves have been. HOW in their small small minds do they think that it's okay to discriminate against others? To define another couple's marriage? To tell another couple whether or not they have the right to happiness? It wasn't so long ago that inter-racial couples weren't allowed to marry either? Was that okay?

I don't want to give their organization any attention but I hope that if anyone googles they'll find my blog too. Feel free to email them at to tell them just how ignorant you think they are too!



  1. Wow, Amanda. I'm offended as well.

  2. Makes you wonder what went wrong with our species...intellect was what once separated us from the primates. Intellect- on whole- is dead. Now, what attributes can we use as example to say we are different? Bueller???

  3. Paulo Friere explained this phenomenon, Amanda, in Pedagogy of the Oppressed:

    But almost always, during the initial stage of the struggle, the oppressed, instead of striving for liberation, tend themselves to become oppressors, or “sub-oppressors.” The very structure of their thought has been conditioned by the contradictions of the concrete, existential situation by which they were shaped. Their ideal is to be men; but for them, to be men is to be oppressors. This is their model of humanity. This phenomenon derives from the fact that the oppressed, at a certain moment of their existential experience, adopt an attitude of “adhesion” to the oppressor. Under these circumstances they cannot “consider” him sufficiently clearly to objectivize him — to discover him “outside” themselves. This does not necessarily mean that the oppressed are unaware that they are downtrodden. But their perception of themselves as oppressed is impaired by their submersion in the reality of oppression. At this level, their perception of themselves as opposites of the oppressor does not yet signify engagement in a struggle to overcome the contradiction;[2] the one pole aspires not to liberation, but to identification with its opposite pole.
    In this situation the oppressed do not see the “new man as the person to be born from the resolution of this contradiction, as oppression gives way to liberation. For them, the new man or woman themselves become oppressors.

  4. That's very interesting Joanne. Thanks!

  5. Wow. I would have had a field day with that family. I hate when I see cars on the road with those type of bumper stickers on them, because I want to follow them home and ask them their reasonings.

    Their poor children. How sad to have no shame at wearing your bigotry on your sleeve.

  6. What I love (eyeroll) is that most of these people give religion as their excuse, yet the bible is full of bizarre relationships sanctioned by the Lord. That's not even getting into the fact that shellfish is as distasteful to Jehovah as two guys getting it on. Where's their anti-shrimp shirt?

  7. Mean people suck.
    I'd curse them to a lifetime of unhappiness, but when you have that much hate in you you're ALREADY living a lifetime of unhappiness. Shame on them and anyone who does stuff like this.


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